Classy or Trashy User?

Posted: June 16, 2011 in My Articles

“It was obvious that she was hitting on you! But you gave her the green light!”

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“Remember that Gucci bag that I told you about? I went today to buy it, and guess what? It was sold! But I bought that other one…the better one..remember what the guy said? It is one of its kind!”

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“What’s taking you so long? I’ve been waiting for 15 minutes! I didn’t tell you to come at ten! Are you deaf or what…stupid man! I said nine-thirty!”

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“Oh, I just love your new look! It’s so hot! I think you look prettier in red!”

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“No..no!! We can’t postpone the meeting! We’ve been postponing it for weeks! Call his assistant and tell her it’s urgent!”

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“Believe me…I didn’t mean to hurt you! It was just an innocent joke! You are so sensitive!”

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(All the above in one place!)

Too much of a crowd…eh?

Noisy isn’t it?

Too many irrelevant conversations you think?

 Well, I hate to say it, but this is our life. Everywhere you go, you hear people talking loudly over their cell phones; flirting, arguing, taking appointments, showing off, or just gossiping. Surly, there is nothing wrong with that, but when all of the above happens OUT  LOUD for everybody to hear, things could become really annoying.  

At restaurants, for instance, we seem to hear the people who are sitting at the next table more than we hear the people who are sitting with us at the same table. In hospitals, people wander in the corridors carrying their cell phones and discussing family issues, business dealings, personal and intimate problems…you name it!

Yet the worse is yet to come! In conferences, business meetings, and lectures, some don’t feel a bit ashamed to disturb and distract others with their cell phones’ ringing tones and with their unnecessary conversations over their phones.  

What an awful display of civilization and technology!  

And again…they talk, argue, laugh out loud, shout, and/or swear. Do they care about the others who have come to the lecture to benefit and develop themselves? Do they even care or bother about others who want to listen? Do they care to be interactive or effective listeners in the conferences/meetings they attend? I don’t think so. It seems that attending seminars, workshops, and lectures are meant to be added to the CVs of those people, and that’s all. Everything else is not important. We talk more….hear a lot….and listen less!

Sometimes I think that we are living others’ lives more than we are living our own. We have become, whether we like it or not, involved in others’ lives by hearing their most intimate and personal conversations.

Obviously, we were thirsty for technology, and that’s why we welcomed it with open arms and hearts. Surly, we can’t live without technology, but have we ever thought of using technology “politely”? Have we ever thought of the etiquette of using mobile phones, iPhones, and Blackberries?

I just have to say it as bluntly as the “loud” cell phone users: it is rude to have a private conversation on your phone while you are among others (unless it is an emergency). It is even more impolite to let others hear your conversations. It is of ill manners to ignore your companions and text message others.

When you want to answer your mobile phone in a public place, always remember, people don’t want to hear you babbling!Yes! No matter how important your conversation is, it is considered babbling for others! 

When you have to answer your phone calls while you are with a group of colleagues, make sure you apologize for not being able to pay attention to them for the next few minutes. Make sure you say: “Excuse me; I have to take this call.” 

When you want to answer your mobile phone in a public place, always remember, people out there get annoyed being “forced” to hear your personal tête-à-tête!

Always remember, strangers are not really interested in knowing about your work, your love affairs, your ignorant driver who doesn’t come on time, or your girlfriend who missed the fancy bazaar at Hilton!

May we just agree on something, guys? Could we please use technology in a classy way? Could we stop being primitive in our use of technology?  Could we agree on having some cell phone etiquette, please?

Classy user or trashy user of technology? It’s your choice as long as it doesn’t bother others!

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Comments
  1. What a wonderful post Maha! I really liked it! Oh God.. I hate mobile phones and how people use them!

    I thought I’m the only one who thinks that answering, talking or texting while with others is REALLY rude! When ever I mention it, people look at me like I’m some idiot!

    As a newly married couple, my husband and I are trying to set some rules for the use of technology at home. There were times when we felt it’s putting too much pressure on our new life together! So We decided to take some actions before it gets out of control.

    Well done Maha and please could you blog about this in Arabic as well?

    Cheers,
    Maram

    • Maha Noor Elahi says:

      Thanks Maram for your reply and great input!
      Setting techno rules for newly-wed couples is an amazing idea! I will be waiting for you to write about this experience 🙂

      And I will try to translate this article into Arabic.

      Thanks dear 🙂

  2. ميسون says:

    مقال جميل ، ليته يُنشر بالعربيّة حتى تؤتى أكله

  3. قصي says:

    Yes, it is getting out of hand, and etiquette… I think died a while ago… or is on life support.

  4. Maha 10 Cell says:

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  5. salman says:

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