What If He Rejected You?

Posted: May 15, 2011 in Uncategorized

You’ve been there! I know that, even if you are a beauty queen! You’ve been in a situation where you found the man of your dreams rejecting you with a brief and harsh explanation: “We’re not good for each other.” To him, it’s an ending of an old story. To you…it’s a beginning of endless tears and agony. What to do if he rejected you? Well…I won’t tell you β€œbe tough and cope with it” and all that “talk-talk” that will make you even more miserable. No…I won’t tell you what to do. I will just tell you about the tricks that WON’T work.


Try to win him back? Don’t even think about it! If he left you, he most probably has done it because he is 1000% sure that he doesn’t want you. If you think there were other factors, which forced him to take that decision, it only shows you that he is not strong enough to stand for what he believes in. Cry and weep as much as you want, but don’t lose your mind after you’ve lost your dignity! If you try to win him back, you might ignite his wrath and resentment. You’ve already lost him, so it’s better to have him away as a friend, not as en enemy.

What then? Drag his sympathy? Pretend you are in trouble and need his advice? Nah! Very cheep! It’s actually the oldest trick in the book, and he would most probably know you are playing it. You’ve already lost your pride when he walked away, so don’t lose it twice because he might reject you again!

What to do then? A very common tool that dumped women use is what I call plan B to get back to plan A. That apparently appealing yet appalling plan B usually involves another man, whose meaning in your life would be like plastic surgery; expensive, painful, and useless 90% of the times! If you are hurt by a man, don’t hunt for another (unless he is a very famous plastic surgeon, which is something you don’t want of course _if you know what I mean). A second man won’t be able to do what you have failed to do, and you might end up having two scars rather than one to deal with! The “make-up” man will probably numb your wound for a while, but there will always be that scar, which you feel its pain as if someone has punched you in the stomach. The rule is simple; rebound guys are a waste of energy and time, and you might end up with a stupid jerk that you cannot easily get rid of!

When you’re wounded, never spread your wound. Take your time; don’t open a new page without fully closing the old pages. The scar will always remain in your heart even after many years, but it only means that you were alive all those years. Whoever has left a mark in your life will always be part of your history although he doesn’t exist physically in your life anymore.

Cherish the scars that were made by the man you loved and make them teach you to make a wiser choice next time. This is the best gift you can give yourself after being rejected.

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Comments
  1. Idil110 says:

    Great advice, I like it ^_^

  2. hasmida says:

    hi,

    thanks for the article..I’ve been rejected twice..1st from da one dat i’ve been together almost 5years..2nd from da one dat I love to know him so much just a few days before I wrote this..I dunno how to communicate with him after all this..

    I really hope that, the right time and the right person will come to my life..

  3. Riem says:

    LOVE your post… i would like to add more point , if i may πŸ™‚ ..
    know the lesson learned before you can fully close the old page,.. use it to learn more about yourself..
    enjoy every moment and don’t let it ruin your chance with others

  4. anonymous says:

    assalam alykum ,

    may alalh provide a better partner for every one with whome they live in peace and live together in jannah too

    i was wondering if there are any marriage bureaus in saudi arabia . .. sis noor elahi can inshalalh guide .. how are you sis elahi andhow are your angles (children) i was on your blog before coming to saudi and now i am in saudi alhumdulillah
    hope to speak to you inshallah

  5. abab says:

    may allah provide a better partner for every one with whome they live in peace and live together in jannah too

    i was wondering if there are any marriage bureaus in saudi arabia . .. sis noor elahi can inshalalh guide .. how are you sis elahi andhow are your angles (children) i was on your blog before coming to saudi and now i am in saudi alhumdulillah
    hope to speak to you inshalla

  6. aseft says:

    may allah provide every one a good match where in they live in peace inshallah
    hope to talk to noor inshalalh .eearlier when i was here i was in india and now i am in saudi and know how things are like here ..arabs failed to give themselves a good life and others too … i was wondering if there are maraige bureaus in here

  7. kenza chater says:

    ❀ ❀ i love this post

  8. Your mode of explaining everything in this post is genuinely good,
    all can easily be aware of it, Thanks a lot.

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