Surrounded by Negativity?

Posted: November 18, 2010 in My Articles

It hits you so hard! It rubs on you harshly! It’s that awful negativity of your so-called friends and acquaintances!

You are smiling, happy, and everything is fine…then all of a sudden…bang! You are slapped on the face with a negative comment, a pessimistic attitude, or a destructive observation….and sometimes it’s an off-putting advice that makes you feel that all your decisions are lunatic and juvenile!

What to do if you are faced with such people?

Three simple steps:

Use a strong antivirus program, delete negative sources from your life, and create a new account!

There’s nothing better to resist negativity than being prepared and well-equipped with the right anti-virus program. Put in mind that with every step you make, there is a possibility of meeting negative people; don’t let their negative energy take you off-guard! Your system should include megabytes of confidence and strength that take the negative energy, filter it, analyze its causes, and limits its effects. Prepare your reasoning and defenses…and don’t forget a big serene smile; nothing kills negative people like seeing an assured smile on the face of their target!

Once you’ve put your hands on the causes and the effects of the negative attacks, you can easily refute them and then surely delete them once and for all. How? Well I guess deleting a person from your life is not that difficult, but if you can’t, all you have to do is delete him/her from your psyche. Our minds are our own property, and no one can control what we keep in them except us. If you let some negative person settle in your mind, don’t blame anyone but yourself. Keeping a file for that person in your intellectual data base is like facilitating the path for negativity to get into you.

After cleaning your system from all negative people, create a new account with poised emotional and mental info about you. This time don’t accept anyone who has negative energy among your list. All who are in your list should empower you, encourage you, enlighten you, or just accept you the way you are.

Negative people’s best place is at a psychiatrist’s clinic, not in your life.

These steps are not easy to apply, but they work…and they are worth the effort!

  1. diana says:

    LOOOL! Can you give us a specific example of a negative remark?

  2. مها نور إلهي says:

    Negative remarks can be range from being simple as “you look awful today!” or “you can never do this! you can never succeed!” or “No matter how much you study, you will never pass!”

    Any off-putting comment that makes you feel bad or incapable of achieving something…it depends on the circle of people you have…

    Was that clear to you? 🙂

  3. Almaha says:

    Such people are like vampires. They suck life out of you with their selfishness and constant negativity.
    And I agree, if we want to live a healthy life, we need to remove such people from our minds.

  4. fatimahsalem says:

    What wise words .. i 100%
    agree 🙂 and U know what? i should try it ^_^

  5. jawaher90 says:

    Wonderful! I loved it, Ms. Maha! What a great idea to clean my system form negative thoughts! I have a quote by me:
    ”Never let the dark thoughts enter your mind, just leave them behind.”

  6. Laylah says:

    What a great idea 🙂 I will have to do a system clean up too, too many negative people around will pull you down too in the end!
    What negative people absolutely cannot stand is positive thinkers. They will do everything in their power to break that positive energy..

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  8. Hatoon says:

    Maha mashallah very nice as usual. well, in addition to negative people, I have also made a decision that I don’t need shallow and empty people in my life any more, so please give us a recipe in how to get rid of them :)))).

    • مها نور إلهي says:

      Thanks, Hatoon. Regarding shallow people, I know what you are talking about…and they are everywhere around us…but you can do the same thing..avoid them as much as you can and if you have to meet with them, find something they don’t have and brag about it 🙂 But the best solution is definitely to stay away from them.

  9. ADNISA says:

    You posted after a long time. Everything ok?

    • Maha Noor Elahi says:

      I am ok .. thanks for asking…
      I’ve been very busy working on several interviews with Saudi girls.
      Please, see my new post.

      thanks 🙂

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